As co/parents, we have similar objectives: to raise happy & healthy children. So, why is it painstakingly difficult to agree upon a schedule? I suspect it’s because we’re human, we’re emotional, and at times, we’re protective, or doubtful. When my emotions creep-in, blurring my judgement, I pause before reacting and reflect on what I’ve learned. […]
Even though we’ve chosen to be apart, to live our separate lives, we still need to communicate clearly and frequently. And without a forcing function of speaking with one another, we have options about how we want to keep information flowing freely. Here are a few that I’ve been using over the past 8+ years […]
We’re six+ long months into the coronavirus. Me time’s been extended hours and days after a camp-free summer. My son’s father and bonus mom and brother are close, more familiar, as we spent many summer nights together — in form and fashion of isolating our germs from the world. The parenting schedule was altered as […]
“So in this moment of reflection, I’m taking an accounting of what our children really need to grow into well-rounded, responsible adults with active bodies and brains, and what we might have been missing as a family because of trying to do too much. Perhaps what we really needed all along was less on our […]
What’s best for everyone When we designed our coparenting schedule, we were focused on “what’s best for our child.” as it should be. Now, during a pandemic, when many of our support systems are unavailable, we need to re-evaluate and consider, what’s best for everyone: mom, dad, child, and bonus family? In the first few […]
our schedules dramatically shifted in March 2020, with added complexity for those of us who coparent. It happened so Suddenly, so unexpectedly, what were we supposed to do? Since then, we’ve scrambled to figure out overnights, virtual classes, and child care (or lack there of). Last month, a co-parenting friend and I shared notes about […]
Arrrgh. We both forgot Mother’s Day. By the time I realized mother’s day was around the corner, my son’s dad had scheduled a trip to his girlfriend’s family’s home in D.C. I texted and called several times and when I got him on the line he said, “I forgot, and i’ve been very accommodating for […]
Even when we split, we’re partners for the long haul. Coparenting is a form of partnership, with a united vision of raising happy, well-adjusted children. When couples can openly discuss their problems, they might decide to stay together. So, have these conversations early! Listen to the other parent. Ask open-ended questions like, “what are you […]